In my experience, it is rare for church people to engage in behavior that is downright evil. Most often, we just try to make everyone feel better by doing dumb stuff. In any case, the best way to deal with it is to cultivate the "full stature of Christ." In other words, "grow up."
This process is made abundantly clear to me every time I am responsible for disarming the alarm system at Christ Church Cranbrook. There is something about that system that makes me feel like a ten-year old. It is a case of chronic anxiety originating in childhood feelings of being an intruder, a trespasser, and an outsider, and has little or nothing to do with the fact that, as soon as the door into the church opens, the alarm begins to growl like a junk yard dog. Domesticating an alarm is an adult skill that only becomes an obstacle when chronic anxiety kicks in to exaggerate the threat.
That said, the gospel also says that “ unless you change and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven." I am not sure the Letter to the Ephesians fully expresses the paradox of Christian discipleship, that is, that only a mature adult can fully appreciate childhood, only a prisoner can fully appreciate freedom, and only the dead can fully live.