Narcissism is a
term originating from the myth of a young man who cannot stop gazing at his own
reflection, to the detriment of everything else in his life. It refers to an excessive self-love and vanity, along
with a similar need for admiration and intolerance
for criticism. Narcissism is a
normal stage of development in early infancy. Primary Narcissism is when an infant cannot distinguish between “self”
and “other”, and so is only aware of its own needs. “Secondary Narcissism” is
when the infant recognizes the other as having a separate identity, but regards
the other solely as a means for meeting its needs. Many people retain varying
degrees of narcissism into adulthood. Extreme cases of this are discussed by M
Scott Peck in his 1998 book People of the
Lie.
Malignant
Narcissism: Excerpts from M. Scott Peck's People of the Lie
The
Narcissist: Refusal to acknowledge sin
It is necessary that we first draw
the distinction between evil and ordinary sin. It is not their sins per se that
characterize evil people...The central defect of the evil is not the sin but
the refusal to acknowledge it.p 69
The Narcissist: Self Image of Perfection
Utterly dedicated to preserving their self-image of perfection, [the evil]
are unceasingly engaged in the effort to maintain the appearance of moral
purity.
The Narcissist: Excessive intolerance of criticism
Self-criticism is a call to
personality change...The evil are pathologically attached to the status quo of
their personalities, which in their narcissism they consciously regard as
perfect. I think it is quite possible that the evil may perceive even a small
degree of change in their beloved selves as representing total annihilation.
p
74
They project their own evil onto the world. They never think
of themselves as evil; on the other hand, they consequently see much evil in
others...Evil, then, is most often committed in order to scapegoat, and the
people I label as evil are chronic scapegoaters....The evil attack others
instead of facing their own failures. p 73-74
The Narcissist: Disguise and pretense
While they seem to lack any motivation to
be good, they intensely
desire to appear good. Their "goodness" is all on a level of
pretense. It is, in effect, a lie. That is why they are the "people of the
lie". The wickedness of the evil is not committed directly, but indirectly
as a part of this cover-up process.
p 76
The Narcissist: Unsubmitted will
Malignant narcissism is characterized by an unsubmitted will.
All
adults who are mentally healthy submit themselves one way or another to
something higher than themselves, be it God or truth or love or some other
ideal....They believe in what is true rather than what they would like to be
true.
The Narcissist: Coercion and control of others
[Evil is] the exercise of political power--that is, the imposition of one's
will upon others by overt or covert coercion-
In addition to the fact that the evil need victims to sacrifice to their
narcissism, their narcissism permits them to ignore the humanity of their
victims as well....The blindness of the narcissist to others can extend even
beyond a lack of empathy; narcissists may not "see" others at all.
There are boundaries to the individual soul. And in our dealings with each
other we generally respect these boundaries. It is characteristic of--and
prerequisite for--mental health both that our own ego boundaries should be
clear and that we should clearly recognize the boundaries of others. We must
know where we end and others begin.
p 136-137
Evil in families
It is my experience that evil seems to run in families.
p 80 If
evil were easy to recognize, identify and manage, there would be no need for
this book. But the fact of the matter is that it is the most difficult of all
things with which to cope.
p 130 [Evil] will contaminate or
otherwise destroy a person who remains too long in its presence.
p 65
The evil deny the suffering of their guilt--the painful awareness of their
sin, inadequacy, and imperfection--by casting their pain onto the other through
projection and scapegoating. They themselves may not suffer, but those around
them do. The evil cause suffering. The evil create for those under their
dominion a miniature sick society.
p 123-124